So, the big day is coming. You’re in the midst of planning, have the venue locked down, bridal party on deck, your dress is to die for and your guests are making plans to come to see you walk down the aisle and make the biggest decision of your entire life in front of God, family and friends. It’s a special moment, indeed. One that you will never forget. Then all of the sudden, you’re given a stay-at-home order issued by your state and local government. Days go by, weeks go by, and suddenly you’re thinking “I don’t know if I’m going to be able to have this joyous moment that I spent weeks, months, YEARS planning!” I get it, because I’m there. I read this article on Twitter from Essence magazine titled “Love Will Conquer All” about couples that had wedding plans for the months of May and June and even August having to decide to move their wedding date or cancel all together. A close friend of mine had to cancel hers after already moving it to this year because she had a baby last year. As I read this article, I got this sinking feeling that even though my nuptials are in October, “what if?” I quickly displaced that thought and decided to stay encouraged. I emailed my wedding planners and simply said: “let’s keep moving forward until we’re told otherwise.” And they agreed. My fiancé, being the supportive rock that he is, is totally onboard and not letting our plans become affected, but, with me, staying the course with all of this.
A lot of people have asked me, “what are you going to do? How are the wedding plans?” At first, I didn’t know what to say but after reading, meditating and thinking more and more about this, here were a few things that are helping me push through:
- Not Alone
The wedding industry stays popping! Last I checked, 2.4 million on average per year, to be exact. So many people are seeing a disruption in their plans and putting things on hold, so the feeling of knowing other people are unfortunately in this boat lets me know we all share a story.
- Positive Reinforcement
There has been an outpouring of love and support through all of this from people. I did have to hear the occasional “do you think you want to cancel?” question but I ignored with a strong “God is in control!” Which brings me to my next point…
There are just some things that are beyond our control. The only thing we’re able to control is our health and well-being and focus on the “right now” of it all. We have to work within our means and do what’s best for ourselves and our close loved ones, especially the elderly.
- Love Will Conquer All
True love with your partner inside of all this and the ability to withstand the negativity surrounding this pandemic is what gives hope and trust that things will work out the way they are supposed to.
I have faith and hope that we are all going to make it through this. As long as I allow doubt and fear to cloud my mind my anxiety is going to continue to plague, and what good is that? If we hold onto the sliver of hope and listen to what is being said about how to prevent this virus from continuing to spread, the chance of us being out doing our daily activities again will grow.
So, dear readers, it’s not just enough to read an article, say positive mantras throughout the day and just hope for the best. This epidemic is serious and affecting so many entities and facets of our lives that we have to do other things to stay encouraged and safe. I’m working on keeping myself together and hope all of you do the same. Stay healthy and safe!